Keeping happy in a sexual relationship

If you are in a sexual relationship with someone, you should continue to look after each other, on both the physical and the non-physical side.  See our tips for happy relationships, and how to deal with issues that might arise.

As far as the physical relationship is concerned, remember:

  • sex generally gets better with practice. It can take time to work out what you and your partner like.
  • you should try to ‘give and take’ in sex, in the same way as in other areas of your relationship. But if there is really something you don’t like doing, say so, and explain why. There are different ways of giving pleasure.
  • people can reveal unexpected and private things in sex – in what they say or what they do at particularly intense moments. Respect this and don’t laugh at it.
  • but if your partner reveals some fact or part of their character that makes you feel very uncomfortable, say so, and explain why. Then see whether it’s something that you can sort out between you, or whether you should think about breaking up.

You can find practical, sensible, balanced advice on having a good sexual relationship on this website, designed especially for young people 16+.

See our other pages on things you need to do if you’re in a sexual relationship:

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