Sex without love

Some girls have sex when they are not in a happy relationship or even in a relationship at all..


  • Think why you’re still having sex if you are not happy in your relationship.
  • Don’t think that you have to put up with an unhappy relationship.
  • If you’re staying in the relationship because you are scared, see here.
  • If you’re staying in the relationship because you don’t feel happy about yourself, see if you can do something to boost your self-esteem. Look at our pages on looking after your mind, as well as on relationships with others such as friends or families.
  • If you’re using your partner for sex, but don’t really care about them, that is unfair on them, and you should think about breaking up.
  • If you’re unhappy, talk to someone you trust – your social worker (if you have one), a sexual health nurse, friends or family, even staff at school.
  • Sex outside relationships


  • If you are having casual sex, especially casual sex with lots of partners, you need to protect yourself.
  • Protect yourself physically against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. Your risks of these increase with the number of partners you have.
  • You also need to protect yourself emotionally. Casual sex may make you happy for a short while but does not bring proper happiness.
  • If you don’t really enjoy the sex and only do it because you think you should, you need to look at our pages on sex under pressure and abusive relationships. Your health and wellbeing are important – protect yourself.
  • NEVER feel pressured into sex. It is always your right to say ‘no’. See here for practical help on saying no
  • See if you can make yourself feel better by living your life a different way.
  • Talk to someone you trust – friends or family, your social worker (if you have one), a sexual health nurse, even staff at school.