Talking helps

Believe it or not, the best way to regain mental and emotional good health is to have our feelings listened to and made sense of. It sounds simple but to be listened to (in a way that means being understood, so that we feel taken seriously) we need to brave the often-difficult act of opening up our underlying feelings. And when we feel our feelings are bad or shameful, this can be the hardest thing to do. Quite often, we don’t even know consciously what our deeper feelings are. And quite often we would rather cling to our unhealthy patterns than risk a ‘new normal’.

Sharing painful feelings and telling our ‘own truth’ from our deeper selves, is the way to find happiness in the present. As Buddha said ‘There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way’.

When we take a leap of faith, when we risk sharing what troubles us (not that we have to share everything, normally; privacy is also important), when we start to realise that what we think is our worst self is something that can be accepted and we are still loveable and forgivable, then we regain mental health, self-esteem and confidence. It can sometimes take a bit of time but we usually need to practice to get better at something.